My late wife Gill wrote a play based on the myth of Persephone when she was about twelve years old.
I did not discover it until after her death.
In the summer of her death I decided to explore the myth of Persephone through art. I intended to make a poem to go with this work. I just have not been able to write it yet.
Persephone is the Goddess of Spring. In Pagan mythology she is the maiden aspect of the triple Goddess.
She was abducted by Hades, ruler of the underworld, the land of shades.
Her mother, Demeter, the Earth Mother, turned the earth barren in her grief and rage at her daughter's loss.
Finally Persephone was allowed to return to the world above with the return of Spring each year.
Each year at this time, when the skin separating the worlds of the dead and the living is at its thinnest, Persephone must return to be Queen of the Underworld again.
Here I am sharing a collage of images I took exploring the theme with Rebecca Tun, who was Gill's favourite model as well as mine.
Thursday, 25 October 2012
Sunday, 21 October 2012
Tina Negus; On the other side
On the other side
A book of poetry and Pictures by Tina Negus
This is a remarkable book by a very special woman. Tina is not just a poet, but a painter, photographer, potter, naturalist and historian. She is also the best person anyone could turn to for support in a personal crisis. Her poem-picture art is not just words and marks on the surface of paper, it runs deep, deep into history, deep into human experience, deep into the meaning of life.
She has chosen the title of one of her poems for the title of the book. In it she looks through a key hole into the life of a church, where the life of the place has turned into history. Perhaps she is telling us that she has stepped outside of time to observe the passing of time. Perhaps she is telling us that she is on the side of the ghosts, or in an eternal space. Yet again, perhaps the mystery is about a faith that is lost.
In “Gospel writer”, she says,”
Living words pour from my pen
As life ebbs from me
Who is the gospel writer? Is it the lark rising, singing his song to the sun? Is this a pagan Goddess? Is this the author, bringing us good tidings, or is it someone who can no longer see him, concentrating only on her pen, her words?
The poems take us back to the remotest of times, when the landscape was made by nature and then remade by man. In so many of them we go off into the long dead past, only to find it still with us, accompanying our steps as we wander with the author through the ruins of now.
When Tina and I started the on-line gallery, Poetry and Pictures England, on Flickr, I had dreamed of large coffee table books with fine colour pictures opposite each image. Indigo Dreams publishing have offered us a slim volume, A5, with tiny black and white pictures tucked away below the poems. It is a poetry publishing house, after all. Maybe coffee table books will return if the economy ever recovers. My own book, “A journey though Grief” is given a similar treatment in its paper back form, but at least there is a colour version in the e-book (Chipmunka publishing.). Some of her pictures come out surprisingly well in black and white. Langstrothdale works particularly well.
Love of history, love of the English landscape, love of mythic reality and naturalistic spirituality, these are the themes which are woven in threads though the great majority of the works. Occasionally she makes a foray into the grime of modern life and modern politics, but here she is not as convincing, not as connected. The modern ugliness of life impinges on her work occasionally, when she shows and tells of the violation of the temple at Avebury by unknown modern vandals.
Three more poems to mention; “Dunstanburgh” tells the story of a castle on the coast where Kings and Lords are imagined coming and going, only to replaced by the poet coast path walker, calling out to the birds and the winds, where once there were armies. The tiny black and white image looks pixelated, a sad comment on the grandeur of the grand place the poem conjures. “Zipped” has a powerful resonance with me. I have heard that zip run over the bodies of my wife and father.
“Ziiiiiiiiiiiippppppppp
Echoing quiet, softly
My mother’s life being zipped up”
It is an unforgettable noise, an unforgettable moment. The poem tells it so well.
Finally there is the last poem, the one after “The other side.” “To one end only” tells of the end of life, the end to which we are all coming. It feels to me a very biographical story of the author’s own movement into old age and dying. Perhaps there is no other side after all. Perhaps there is no stepping out of time.
You will need to read the book to make up your own mind.
First Kick at the Bucket; http://www.kickingthebucket.co.uk/
Gabrielle and I went to The Pitt Rivers Museum yesterday to explore;
The talk was dry and barely mentioned the fish burial. It failed to mention Kicking The Bucket at all except when I asked before hand. She was aware of the festival.
In the exhibition area the fantasy coffin like a bill board for a 1950's shop front on all sides.
It was different, but not in a good way. The wooden roof was made to look like corrugated iron.
How very different from the wondrous work on the fish coffin that was shown on the video which was on a loop behind this "centre piece".
If only the film maker had been the one giving the talk. We had to rely on the short film.
20th Oct - 2.30-3.30pm | We’ll bury you in a fish – gallery tour & talk.
Julia Nicholson on ‘Made for Trade’ exhibition highlighting the centrepiece ‘fantasy coffin’ from Ghana plus short film. See www.prm.ox.ac.uk
Suitable for adults and older children.
No need to book. (space for the first 20 people on a first come first served basis) |
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The basic idea is that the funeral casket should show what the dead person was concerned with during life.
A shop keeper would go under surrounded with adverts for his goods.
A fisherman would be buried in a beautifully crafted painted wooden fish.
What would I be buried in? Earth, air, fire, water, a burial on a fire ship pushed out to sea?
I guess I have always been afraid to be buried in the earth.
Will I leave my family to decide?
Gill was buried in a cardboard coffin. She would have liked that. She wanted to be bones as fast as possible.
She left no instructions. Joel, her young son, would not let the cover I placed on it go down with her. He also kept her teddy. The red shoes that Dorothy might have worn went down with the coffin. The celebrant wore a red dress.
I think Angela Frawley, my older daughter's mother, was also buried in card board. I am not sure. It was covered in dark blue velvet with many silver stars upon it. Everything was dictated minutely in her will. I think I chose to read my own poem rather than the one that was chosen for me at the crematorium. I always fell out with her about her controlling nature. Perhaps I misremember. Perhaps she allowed me to choose. Tony read the Yates. It is 12 years gone by now.
I can recall us buying the most expensive wooden coffin for his casket. He would have liked that.
But maybe not; he was always thrifty in life but for the Rolls Royce and the Champagne all round on Christmas day.
My mother had a simple wooden box. She was buried next to my father who died over twenty years before her.
The talk was dry and barely mentioned the fish burial. It failed to mention Kicking The Bucket at all except when I asked before hand. She was aware of the festival.
In the exhibition area the fantasy coffin like a bill board for a 1950's shop front on all sides.
It was different, but not in a good way. The wooden roof was made to look like corrugated iron.
How very different from the wondrous work on the fish coffin that was shown on the video which was on a loop behind this "centre piece".
If only the film maker had been the one giving the talk. We had to rely on the short film.
20th Oct - 2.30-3.30pm | We’ll bury you in a fish – gallery tour & talk.
Pitt Rivers Museum, South Parks Road, OX1 3PP | Map No 9
Julia Nicholson on ‘Made for Trade’ exhibition highlighting the centrepiece ‘fantasy coffin’ from Ghana plus short film. See www.prm.ox.ac.ukSuitable for adults and older children.
No need to book. (space for the first 20 people on a first come first served basis) |
The basic idea is that the funeral casket should show what the dead person was concerned with during life.
A shop keeper would go under surrounded with adverts for his goods.
A fisherman would be buried in a beautifully crafted painted wooden fish.
What would I be buried in? Earth, air, fire, water, a burial on a fire ship pushed out to sea?
I guess I have always been afraid to be buried in the earth.
Will I leave my family to decide?
Gill was buried in a cardboard coffin. She would have liked that. She wanted to be bones as fast as possible.
She left no instructions. Joel, her young son, would not let the cover I placed on it go down with her. He also kept her teddy. The red shoes that Dorothy might have worn went down with the coffin. The celebrant wore a red dress.
I think Angela Frawley, my older daughter's mother, was also buried in card board. I am not sure. It was covered in dark blue velvet with many silver stars upon it. Everything was dictated minutely in her will. I think I chose to read my own poem rather than the one that was chosen for me at the crematorium. I always fell out with her about her controlling nature. Perhaps I misremember. Perhaps she allowed me to choose. Tony read the Yates. It is 12 years gone by now.
I can recall us buying the most expensive wooden coffin for his casket. He would have liked that.
But maybe not; he was always thrifty in life but for the Rolls Royce and the Champagne all round on Christmas day.
My mother had a simple wooden box. She was buried next to my father who died over twenty years before her.
Friday, 5 October 2012
40 things to say before you die
Phillipa suggested we might like to explore this website/concept at some point.
I thought I would share it here.
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jessicahagy/2012/10/04/40-things-to-say-before-you-die/
I thought I would share it here.
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jessicahagy/2012/10/04/40-things-to-say-before-you-die/
Friday, 28 September 2012
Another creative response to bereavement
Check out this website here
http://beyondgoodbye.co.uk/
It uses film, photography and writing to explore responses to a
the death of a man's son in a car crash in Vietnam
http://beyondgoodbye.co.uk/
It uses film, photography and writing to explore responses to a
the death of a man's son in a car crash in Vietnam
Tuesday, 18 September 2012
Notes from our first meeting
Go to www.nickowenphotography.co.uk and click Publications to purchase "A Journey Through Grief", Nick's story of loss, bereavement, and recovery through creative arts.
11 September 2012
Phillipa had requested someone take some notes for the Dying
Matters Coalition in her absence.
I am not sure it will be that sort of a meeting. I asked
people to send me comments afterwards if they wished. I am starting a web log
for the group members to share thoughts, feelings, poetry and pictures, if they
wish to do so.
Christine has kindly sent some “well pictures” we might use.
Four of us gathered at seven o’clock in the crypt room at
The Albion Beatnik bookstore. Three others sent apologies and will be there for
future meetings. Brightly coloured poetry and poets’ names spiralled or striped
the walls. The place had a kind of cosiness to it. Several people ordered tea
and coffee from our ever helpful hosts, Lucie and Dennis.
I allowed the meeting to evolve organically rather than
follow an agenda.
We shared something of who we are and why we were there.
Poems and pictures were shared.
Personal histories emerged. All of us have been through
major bereavements in the not too distant past. We have all tapped into the
well of creativity to help us reach different points on the journey through
grief.
We started to explore the ways we had used our creative
energies to help us through the grieving process and will be continuing to do
so.
There was joy in this encounter at a raw and real level. I
came away feeling high.
“Fallen among angels,” was one person’s description of her
experience.
After about ninety minutes I started to suggest structural
elements. We discussed confidentiality without a clear conclusion.
I would prefer it if things that are shared are only
confidential if the sharer asks that they be so.
Anything personal will be checked with the author before it
is shared or published on line.
We decided to give ourselves until the 30th of
October before meeting again.
We may meet informally between sessions. I showed one member
how to use the internet for the very first time this week.
The theme for our next meeting will be the “Kicking the
Bucket” festival.
We will attend one or more event and report back.
Anticipating the kicking the bucket expression I share here
a poem I read at the meeting.
Big Black Brick
At the end you did your cooking
In a big black brick
The base was very heavy
And the sides were awfully thick
The sauce would burn
While you relaxed
The washing up
It had me taxed
Impacted
Congealed
Contracted
Although it was a part of you
From which we fondly fed
I’ll never use the thing again
Now you are dead
Next meeting: 30th October 6.30 p.m. at the
Albion Beatnik Bookstore, Walton
St Oxford .
Friday, 14 September 2012
Welcome to the web log
We are creative artists who are concerned with death, dying and bereavement, and with ways in which art can play a transformative role in the lives of people who are dying or bereaved, and in the lives of friends and family of dead people. Currently we meet once a month in the crypt at the Albion Beatnik Bookstore in Walton Street in Oxford.
We meet to share our work, find inspiration and discuss the issues which concern us.
Publication As time goes by we may publish things either on line or in real world media.
We support The Dying Matters Coalition, which aims to bring the reality of death and dying out of the shadows and into the bright light of day.
On this blog you will find;
links to other helpful organisations and groups such as
The Journey onwards
http://www.kickingthebucket.co.uk/
Poetry
Pictures
Notes from meetings
Prose
Music
Contact; You should write to Nick Owen about joining the group
We are creative artists who are concerned with death, dying and bereavement, and with ways in which art can play a transformative role in the lives of people who are dying or bereaved, and in the lives of friends and family of dead people. Currently we meet once a month in the crypt at the Albion Beatnik Bookstore in Walton Street in Oxford.
We meet to share our work, find inspiration and discuss the issues which concern us.
Publication As time goes by we may publish things either on line or in real world media.
We support The Dying Matters Coalition, which aims to bring the reality of death and dying out of the shadows and into the bright light of day.
On this blog you will find;
links to other helpful organisations and groups such as
The Journey onwards
http://www.kickingthebucket.co.uk/
Poetry
Pictures
Notes from meetings
Prose
Music
Contact; You should write to Nick Owen about joining the group
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